by Jamie Lapeyrolerie
Recently I was skyping with my best friends and started talking about a show I was watching on Netflix. Confession: At first I wouldn’t mention the show name because it’s so cheesy, I’m not the intended audience, and it’s a bit embarrassing that I’m so hooked on the show. But what can I say? I can’t resist any sort of crime drama (that’s my one clue: detectives are involved). My friend asked me what show and so I came clean. She started laughing, saying that she had watched the show too. We all started laughing and I’m pretty sure we convinced our other friend to start watching it too. You’re welcome Netflix. Also, reason #18963 we’re best friends.
It reminded me of one of my favorite quotes from The Four Loves by C.S. Lewis. In the section on friendship, Lewis wrote,
“Friendship arises out of mere Companionship when two or more of the companions discover that they have in common some insight or interest or even taste which the others do not share and which, till that moment, each believed to be his own unique treasure (or burden). The typical expression of opening Friendship would be something like, “What? You too? I thought I was the only one.”
Isn’t that one of the best parts of becoming friends with someone? The little things you connect on – whether silly (like a Netflix show) or something more meaningful. It’s that moment you realize you can be yourself with that person.
It’s impossible to imagine my life without my closest girlfriends. As I get older, I’m reminded how important that sisterhood is. I’m thankful I’m close with my family (my sister is my best friend), but there’s something beautiful about the extra gift that friendship brings. Not the friendship formed through the same DNA, but through where our lives take us.
Another quote from Lewis (I’m a fan through and through) says this: “Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art…. It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.”
I believe with all my heart we were never meant to be lone rangers. We were never meant to be alone.
We are meant to have people we could turn to no matter what. We are meant to have people in our lives that build us up and encourage us, wherever that may lead. We are meant to have a sisterhood. A sisterhood of women who make us laugh, who hold our secrets, who are some of our loudest cheerleaders.
When I think back of some of the biggest moments in my life thus far, my best friends were right there beside me and vice versa. Sometimes it was bringing me Del Taco while I waited for my Mom to make it through quadruple bypass surgery. Sometimes it was having the privilege of standing beside them as they exchanged vows on their wedding day. And sometimes it was knowing they were praying for me states away as I traveled to the biggest job interview of my life.
For those women in your life, I encourage you to reach out to them today and let them know how much they mean to you.
I’ll leave you with lyrics from my favorite band, NEEDTOBREATHE. May we all be this “brother,” this friend, and may we encourage the women in our lives who are there for us too.
Brother let me be your shelter
I’ll never leave you all alone
I can be the one you call
When you’re low
Brother let me be your fortress
When the night winds are driving on
Be the one to light the way
Bring you home
(“Brother” by NEEDTOBREATHE)
Jamie Lapeyrolerie claims she’s Narnian & native of Middle Earth. While she waits for Gandalf to knock on her door, she works in publishing and eats Mexican food as often as possible. She likes to put words together & post them on the Internet. You can connect with her on her blog, Musings of Jamie, and also on her favorite social media platform: Instagram.
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